Something I've come to realize...
In a large number of situations, nice guys really do finish last. If you are one who is willing to make sacrifices for the good of the whole, when others are not, then you will be expected to make sacrifices when others are not.
If you put the needs and wants of others ahead of your own. Then there will be many people out there who will take advantage of your kindness and expect you to put their wants and needs ahead of your own, while refusing to repay in kind.
I've realized that once you no longer have anything to give or anything to contribute to those people, then their "friendship" or "relationship" with you changes, or disappears all together.
This realization makes it very difficult not to be cynical. This realization makes it difficult to be willing to open up and put yourself out there for anyone. This realization makes it difficult for you to "do the right thing". After all, if you're gonna get screwed more often than not for "doing the right thing" then why do it?
Guarded keeps you from getting hurt. Guarded keeps you from getting screwed. But I have to keep believing that guarded will also keep you from finding that person, however scarce, who may actually appreciate and give back in kind.
So I'll get over it, I'll move on, and I'll keep trying not to be too cynical.
In a large number of situations, nice guys really do finish last. If you are one who is willing to make sacrifices for the good of the whole, when others are not, then you will be expected to make sacrifices when others are not.
If you put the needs and wants of others ahead of your own. Then there will be many people out there who will take advantage of your kindness and expect you to put their wants and needs ahead of your own, while refusing to repay in kind.
I've realized that once you no longer have anything to give or anything to contribute to those people, then their "friendship" or "relationship" with you changes, or disappears all together.
This realization makes it very difficult not to be cynical. This realization makes it difficult to be willing to open up and put yourself out there for anyone. This realization makes it difficult for you to "do the right thing". After all, if you're gonna get screwed more often than not for "doing the right thing" then why do it?
Guarded keeps you from getting hurt. Guarded keeps you from getting screwed. But I have to keep believing that guarded will also keep you from finding that person, however scarce, who may actually appreciate and give back in kind.
So I'll get over it, I'll move on, and I'll keep trying not to be too cynical.
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